Often young girls feel the need to be a certain way in order to fit in. But as cliché as it sounds, why try to fit in when you were born to stand out?
Girls of the age of thirteen and fourteen tend to create a sort of bubble around them as if to say that things such as popularity and recognition are their true mottos in life. But once they step out into the real world, the slap of reality teaches them that as significant as they were or would have liked to be in school, they were only really a tiny speck of dust moving around on earth. The earth is made up of larger things like love, humanity and invention. And at the end of the day, everyone’s opinions of you is NOT what will take you forward in life. It is your faiths and beliefs that will move you ahead and will give your life purpose.
Personally, I learnt this the harder way. As I initially stepped into my teenage years, I was blown away by a whiff of air that was known to give you a disease called “consciousness”. The initial symptom of becoming a self absorbent, rumourmonger. (This is the first time I’ve heard of this word too!). I became an entity that was ripped off her identity and the traits that made her beautiful, only to chase after something that was never really there.
The harsh truth is that there is nothing that can really define how popular or how loved you are. The concept that seems to steal some very special years of us girls lives is something that we create ourselves in our head. We feel a sudden yet dire need to be the best version of ourselves. As time consuming as the thought of popularity and perfection may be, the reality is that we must find ourselves.
We should find the confidence within ourselves as well as our surroundings to embrace who we really are. It may change as the years start to give in, but all change will be keeping in mind that we have become more learned and more mature in our approach. We may change our beliefs and faiths as the real world starts to unfold itself. But at the end of the day it makes us who we are. It moulds us into the people we want the world to know we are.
There will always be someone you look up to. But it is up to you to choose the very best in order to broaden your self and your character. As unreal as it may sound, there will always be someone who looks up to you too. Love yourself and embrace your differences. Because as Dr. Suess put it:
“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer that You.”
By loving yourself you teach others how to love you. -Rupi Kaur